OK, during a period where the Phase 2's just thrashing each other from
both ends (central office and problem remote office), I tried ping
testing to a public address (easynews.com), the local DNS Server, and
the remote router's WAN IP address, all with no packet loss from either
side after about 2-3 minutes of continuous pings at min and max packet
sizes.

I've gotten to the point where I have pushed the Phase 1 timeout to
24hrs and the Phase 2 timeout to 12hrs, just to keep my clients from
major downtime.  That only worked for a day and a half.  Yet again, the
remote office had to hard-boot the router and wait 5 minutes before the
tunnel was restored.

I have come across 2 spare Linksys BEFVP41's which I am about to try,
just for comparison.  If they appear to work better, I will most likely
junk the Netopias.  If the problems remain the same, I may just nuke
the site for morbid. This has been unbelievably frustrating.

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