after a while of search post after post, and site after site, i think
i finally put together something here that works.. i hope it helps
anyone out there...

1. Install OpenSSL the normal way:
./config
make
make install

2. configure openssl to be shared
./config
make
make build-shared (do not do install)
mv libssl.so* /usr/local/lib
mv libcrypto.so* /usr/local/lib

3. Install apache with the following configs, and remember to remove
unneccesary modules later in the httpd.conf file
./configure --enable-ssl --with-ssl=/usr/local/ssl
--enable-modules=all --enable-so
make
make install

now build your certificated however you want.. and run ./apachectl
startssl

ldconfig

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